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Boys should be boys : 7 secrets to raising healthy sons / Meg Meeker.

By: Meeker, Margaret J.
Material type: materialTypeLabelBookPublisher: Washington, DC : Regnery, c2008Description: x, 287 pages ; 24 cm.Content type: text Media type: unmediated Carrier type: volumeISBN: 9781596980570(hbk).Other title: Seven secrets to raising healthy sons.Subject(s): Teenage boys | Boys -- Psychology | Child rearing | Parent and childDDC classification:
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

In Boys Should Be Boys , critically acclaimed author Dr. Meg Meeker helps parents restore the delights of boyhood and enable today's boys to become the mature, confident, and thoughtful men of tomorrow.

Boys will always be boys--rambunctious, adventurous, and curious, climbing trees, building forts, playing tackle football, all part of the rite of passage into manhood. But today our sons face an increasingly hostile world, one that doesn't value the spirited nature of boys. Meeker explores the secrets to boyhood to create an uplifting guide to make raising sons a little easier.

Includes bibliographical references (p. 249-264) and index.

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Table of contents provided by Syndetics

  • Introduction: The Seven Secrets to Raising Healthy Boys (p. 1)
  • Chapter 1 Boyhood under Siege (p. 5)
  • Chapter 2 Bucking Peer Pressure (p. 19)
  • Chapter 3 Bullfrogs and Racecars (p. 29)
  • Chapter 4 Electronic Matters (p. 51)
  • Chapter 5 Does Testosterone Drive Cars? (p. 75)
  • Chapter 6 Encouragement, Mastery, and Competition (p. 87)
  • Chapter 7 A Mother's Son (p. 105)
  • Chapter 8 The Difference a Dad Makes (p. 145)
  • Chapter 9 The Forgotten Step from Boyhood to Manhood (p. 165)
  • Chapter 10 The God Factor (p. 183)
  • Chapter 11 How Then Shall We Teach Them to Live? (p. 203)
  • Chapter 12 Ten Tips for Making Sure You Get It Right (p. 225)
  • Bibliography (p. 249)
  • Acknowledgments (p. 265)
  • Notes (p. 267)
  • Index (p. 275)

Excerpt provided by Syndetics

Introduction  The Seven Secrets to Raising Healthy Boys   I THINK OF THIS BOOK AS sort of The Dangerous Book for Parents. The bestselling The Dangerous Book for Boys was full of fun information and projects that boys love but that too many of us have tried to deny them. Tree houses? Too dangerous. The boys might fall and break their arms. Insects and spiders? Yuck. And you want to teach them about hunting, how to make a bow and arrow, and great battles of history? Are you crazy? Actually, these are all things boys like, and there is no harm in them. As a pediatrician, I've seen plenty of boys with broken arms, spider bites, or who have scraped a knee playing soldier in the woods. But these are just part of growing up. Too many of us parents obsess about healthy diversions that active boys like to do, while not recognizing what is truly dangerous for our boys--like popular music, television, and video games that deaden their sensibilities, shut them off from real human interaction, impede the process of maturation, prevent them from burning up energy in useful outdoor exercise, divorce them from parents, and lower their expectations of life.  In this book I mean to cut through a lot of the misapprehensions, misinformation, and misleading assumptions that too many parents have. It's a book of practical advice based on my clinical experience, relevant scientific data, and the sort of common sense that too many of us managed to misplace from reading too many politically correct "parenting" books. My concern is not with what is politically correct, but with what is true and what is best for our boys. I've seen, and I've learned, that when it comes to raising sons, what is politically correct and what is true are often at opposite ends of the spectrum. I think it's time we put our sons first.  In this book you will learn how to raise healthy and happy boys--boys who are honest, courageous, humble, meek (in the sense of willingly withholding their power), and kind. There are secrets to raising such boys. Among these secrets are the big seven. I can mention them in passing here, but we'll look at what they mean and how to use them in the chapters that follow.  ■ Know how to encourage your son. One fault is babying and spoiling him. But another is being so harsh that you lose communication with your son and destroy his sense of selfworth. We'll look at how to strike the right balance.  ■ Understand what your boys need. Guess what? It's not another computer game; it's you. We'll look at how to get the most of your time with your son.  ■ Recognize that boys were made for the outdoors. Boys love being outside. A healthy boy needs that sense of adventure-- and the reality check that the outdoors gives him.  ■ Remember that boys need rules. Boys instinctively have a boy code. If you don't set rules, however, they feel lost.  ■ Acknowledge that virtue is not just for girls. Boys should, indeed, be boys--but boys who drink, take drugs, and have sex outside of marriage aren't "normal" teenagers, they have been abnormally socialized by our unfortunately toxic culture. Today, my practice as a pediatrician has to deal with an epidemic of serious, even life-threatening, problems--physical and psychological--that were of comparatively minor concern only forty years ago. A healthy boy strives after virtues like integrity and self-control. In fact, it is virtues like these that make a boy's transition to manhood possible.  Excerpted from Boys Should Be Boys: 7 Secrets to Raising Healthy Sons by Meg Meeker All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.